(Photo courtesy of Paul Keller)
(Photo courtesy of Paul Keller)


So, the next time after you work out (especially you guys who are just starting), I want you to do something for me. I want you to strip down to your underwear and look at yourself in the mirror. No, I am not trying to be a pervert or creepy. It’s worked really well for me and I think it’s something everyone should try.

Now I say this to all the people who regularly read this column (all two of you), to say that you need to get your confidence up after you workout. It’s really easy to drop or fall out of a routine because you don’t think that it’s working, but this is a way you can tell it really is. For one thing, your muscles swell every time you move them out of the normal range of motion repetitively, i.e working out. This is most evident right after your workout, so you look more buff or toned.

Another reason to do this is that your endorphins are up and you are more likely to be in a good mood. This means you’re more likely to notice parts of your body that you like rather than things you don’t like. For example, I have little arms and little to no upper body strength, which I don’t really like. But after a good run, the muscles in my legs are huge and they make me feel powerful and strong, so I forget my arms for a while.

Now, I know what some of you are thinking, “I don’t have any good aspects of my body.” For one, you do. Everyone has something they like about their body, regardless of size and shape. And it doesn’t have to be huge or a muscle group. You can have cute ears, pretty eyes, great skin or a Marilyn Monroe mole.

Also say what you like out loud, even if it’s a whisper. Because saying it out loud will cause you to actually think about what you physically like and why and that’s going to make you happy. Just starting off with “My name is ____ and I have a really nice ___” is perfect.

Now here’s the other side of the coin. After you’re all jazzed up about that one thing that you love about yourself, pick the thing that you would like to work on. Note, I didn’t say “the thing that you hate about your body.” I said the thing that you want to work on. Think of it as spreading the sexy from one point to another.

And then do it.

If I want bigger arms, I’m just going to have to lift more, not dwell on the fact that I don’t like them. The same goes for anything else. Again say what you want to do out loud. “My name is ___ and I have a nice ___ and soon I will have (a) nice ____ too.”

If you keep doing this, not only is it a fun way to measure your workout goals, but it will also give a confidence boost if you are in the right mentality. And that confidence is sexier than any body type.

So I hope this advice helps you as much as it helps me.

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