Respect has been taught since the beginning of kindergarten. Treat others the way you want to be treated. The Golden Rule (not the Timberlake and Sandberg one). One might think that after thirteen years of education, working day by day with teachers and other students, respect would be nothing short of an absolute expectation. It seems around this campus, the opposite is true.
Family are the people we’re stuck with. Friends are the family that we get to choose. That being said, I don’t understand why people are so disrespectful to their friends. I understand that friends fight and get on each others’ nerves. But that doesn’t give you the right to spread rumors about what they do and don’t do with a hotdog. Especially if it was just that one time.
In college, the friends we make are the friends we will have for life. They will be the bridesmaids in your wedding, the godparents to your children, and the only people who will stick by you when you become an awful corporate zombie. College is not high school. Jealousy, gossip, and cliques don’t have room here. Between the studying, the classes, the studying, internships, the studying, and graduation, most of us hardly have time to shower. Our friends should be our outlet. Our saviors. Our redemption. Don’t waste your time being childish and disrespectful. Grow up. If you’re old enough to go to war, you’re old enough to show your friends respect.
The most shocking outright disrespect I see is students to teachers. Yes, as students, we pay for our education. And it is expensive. However, our professors do not set the costs, the prerequisites, or really any rules at this university. Yet, I constantly see students in class talking loudly during lecture, mumbling back rude responses when asked a question, or just flat out ignoring professors during discussion. If you do not want to be there, then don’t come. That’s the beauty of being an adult. We can choose these things.
Many of my journalism professors have full-time jobs and teach classes in the evenings. It is just appalling to me that despite all of the extra work these professors have and the time they dedicate to your education, many students show nothing but disrespect. If you are one of those people, you’re tacky and I hate you.
I guess I am just astounded at how common disrespect is on our campus. I detested high school. I couldn’t stand the drama, the gossip, and the disrespect. I would always hear girls talking horribly about someone and then be best friends with them the next minute. It was so petty and I couldn’t stand it. When it came time to go to college, I was so excited because I thought all of that stupidity would be gone and it would just be young people excited to learn and get involved. Really, it’s just high school 2.0.
It’s probably difficult to grow up if you still have your mommy and daddy doing your laundry, paying for your every expense, and coddling you like an infant. But, some of us are adults who want to learn and grow and have the common courtesy to show our friends, colleagues, and professors the respect they deserve. I’m not expecting all of the disrespect to disappear, but if you’re one of those people, just know that you are the ugliest effing person I’ve ever seen. No matter how fabulous you look on the outside.