By AMANI BADRAN, Staff Writer
Ah, long distance relationships. I wish I could speak directly from experience, but I have never been in a long distance relationship. So, I’m going to give you the next best thing: insight from the experience of my best friend.
A couple months ago, my friend Mary met a guy online. Luckily we already knew who this guy was because he used to live around here but he had moved to Texas. They began to text and get to know each other and everything was going great.
As her friend, I was concerned about the fact that he lived across the country. It’s one thing to be in a relationship and then have to cope with the distance because one of you moved away. However, it’s a completely different situation to start off long distance. I know they both also considered this but neither of them thought it was a reason to just not try.
They continued to get to know each other and they had made it two months without seeing each other. The reason they were actually able to do this is because they have a great deal of communication. They filled the void of not seeing each other by calling, texting and face-timing. However, they probably have a greater incentive to continue with their relationship because he’s moving back home soon and their relationship will no longer be long distance.
I hope their relationship continues to be successful until he gets back home and more importantly, I hope it only gets better from there. Unfortunately, not many people are okay with this kind of a relationship. Personally, I’m not sure if I would be able to do it, but that is most likely because the crazy girlfriend in me wouldn’t know how to trust a guy living miles and miles away. Especially if we weren’t together before he moved away.
The debate on whether or not long distance relationships can actually be successful is one that is always going to exist. It really all depends on the individual’s needs, what each one is willing to put up with, and the amount of trust. If you’re someone who feels that you need to see your significant other everyday, then clearly long distance relationships are not for you. If the success of your relationship depends on your sexual needs, then long distance relationships are not for you. Well, there are ways to have sexual relationships via technology but that also depends on what each individual is comfortable with.
The most important part of a long distance relationship is trust. If you are already in a relationship with someone and one of you is moving away, you have to decide whether you care enough to make the effort and also whether you can trust them enough to do so. If you are beginning a relationship while the two of you are already apart, then you must understand that you will need patience and communication. All in all, if the both of you are open and willing, then there is no reason why you can’t be in a successful, happy relationship.