When it comes to New Year’s resolutions, most people stick with the basics: going to the gym, eating healthier, talking to Grandma more. I, however, consider myself to be a little more creative. So this New Year, I have decided to no longer let others bring me down. I’ve been known to allow other people far too much leeway when it comes to my feelings. But not anymore.


Words(And yes, Joe from The Princess Diaries” has also been known to quote this.) She was right. You have to make the effort to NOT let anyone make you feel badly about yourself. As young adults trying to find our way in the world, we are constantly comparing ourselves to others.

While it is difficult to not do, you have to try. Comparing yourself to the girl with perfect hair, clothes, and GPA doesn’t do anything except bring you down and create impossible standards for yourself to live up to. Some of these people may seem perfect on the outside, but no one knows what goes on behind closed doors. When you compare yourself to others, it’s like comparing a fish and a cat on their swimming abilities. It will never be accurate and nothing positive will come out of it.

It’s one thing to bring yourself down by comparing yourself to others. It’s something else completely when these “others” try purposely to bring you down. For many of us, especially girls, it is commonplace to opening judge one another, criticize them behind their back, and spread vicious rumors.

I’ll be the first to admit that I have done all of this in my past. Whether it was due to jealousy (it was), anger (it was jealousy), or just to be mean (that too), I was guilty. It seems harmless until others do it to you. Unfortunately, some people will never realize the errors of their ways, like I have. These are the people that spend their lunch hour gossiping in the name of jealousy or just to be petty.

Recently, and in the future I’m sure, I have been the victim of this. Petty gossip and anger toward me when I did nothing wrong. At first, I was upset and felt like my life was going to be miserable. But, I took a look at myself and everything I have in my life. I realized that I am one of the luckiest people I know. Instead of letting these sad and jealous people make me feel inferior, I’m going to hold my head high and have sympathy for them. Remember that these people who treat you like this are doing so because they are sad in their own lives (Thanks, Aaron Samuel).


So, for this New Year, I’m going to put on my best outfit, my favorite red lipstick, and walk with purpose. Negative people don’t deserve the right to make me feel bad about myself. No one does. Focusing on yourself and being happy should be a number one priority. If the worst someone can say about you is that you’re too happy, you’re doing something right. And if you don’t feel happy, at least you’ll look amazing in that red lipstick and you can fake it ‘till you make it.