By SARAH LEWIS, Editor-in-Chief
Pushy, stubborn, and bossy are all words that can be synonymous with bitch.
The first three words are the words that young, ambitious girls hear much more often than boys, according to the Lifetime PSA, Ban Bossy.
When I heard about this mission to ban the label of bossy girls, I took a minute to think about how many times I’ve been called bossy because I know what I want. Because I’ve worked hard to get where I am. Because I have ambitions and dreams.
What’s wrong with that? Why had I always thought I needed to silently accept the labels of pushy, stubborn, and bossy…even bitch?
I first thought, okay, people call me pushy, stubborn, bossy, and a bitch for working hard and being a leader. Then I realized that I’ve been hearing some these things since I was a little kid, which quickly led to me feeling disgusted and asking myself, “Is this real life?” along with quite a few more questions…
Why was I told I was pushy for asking to be the leader of a group project in elementary school? Why was I called bossy in middle school when I offered to help people with their homework? Why was I called stubborn for telling my high school boyfriend I didn’t want to have sex? Why was I called a bitch for standing up for myself and my ideals in college?
When women take control, they’re bitches, and when men do the same, they’re the boss. I don’t even want to begin to imagine how many young, adolescent, teenage, and even adult females have been deterred from leadership because of these labels.
The best way I can even begin to describe this issue is DUMB.
We should not have to be banning the word bossy in 2014. Oppression of any kind shouldn’t be happening in 2014.
There are only 102 women in Congress while more women are living in the United States than men. Women make an average of 82 cents for every dollar a man makes. The pay gap isn’t shrinking either; it’s grown in the past 20 years.
I know I started off talking about a very little campaign to ban a very little word, but clearly the real issue is so much bigger than that.
If we start with equalizing the ways we describe ambition, maybe the rest of the problems will begin to change, and maybe they won’t. But it won’t hurt to try it.
“I’m not bossy. I’m the boss.”
Watch the video here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6dynbzMlCcw