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By ZOHA REHMAN, Guest Columnist

Zoha Rehman is a guest columnist for the Michigan Journal. Zoha’s views do not necessarily reflect those of the Journal.

There are some universal things that all people have in common. In psychology class, we learn about universal expressions, being one example. We all love something, whether it be a person, a pet, type of food, sports, etc.

Sometimes we get overly-attached to the things we love and they can become an identity without realizing it. The problem with that is, when we lose that something, whether it’s a breakup, a death or an allergy to the food you obsess over, it hurts.

That pain might feel like you’re having your heart removed without anesthesia. Sometimes the emotional pain can have a toll on your physical body like temporary comfort from overeating.  Maybe, for some people, they feel like their world is upside down. When we lose whatever we are overly-attached to, it’s a reality check that something needs to change.

Sometimes in the process of falling in love with anything, we get consumed. We let that thing define us and we place our self worth on that thing. So when we lose it, it really hurts. But that’s ok. It’s ok to hurt. It’s ok to learn things from experiences that hurt us.

As cliché as it sounds, those are the experiences that make you grow and a better version of who you were yesterday. When we are forming our attachments, it’s essential to our well being to have reality checks once in awhile. We have to ask ourselves, “If I lose this, how will I react? Will I be ok with the person I see in the mirror?”