“Where there is love, there is life.” – Mahatma Ghandi
Ever wondered by people care so much about Valentine’s day, or how it got all started? Well, read on:
Valentine’s Day is named after a Roman priest, St.Valentine. During that time, Emperor Claudius II saw marriages were making married men weak soldiers so he banned it. St.Valentine disagreed, so he helped couples get married in secret. However, when Claudius found out – he ordered for St.Valentine to be thrown in jail and sentenced to death on February 14. That was when St.Valentine fell in love with the jailer’s daughter where he sent a letter to her signed with his name – “Valentine.”
In convrosterial countries like Saudi Arabia, even having the notation of Valentine’s Day is a curse. It was only last year that the government in Saudi Arabia was more accepting of the holiday. Previous years, the religious police would take down anything related to the holiday, as Saudi Arabia has strict laws when it comes to romantic relationships. Men and women are not allowed to mix within one another, whether privately or publicly, unless they are close family members. Only when married, can they form a romantic relationship. It is strange because in Saudi Arabia, as a culture that speaks of the importance of hospitality, we can sometimes be close-minded. Some see the idea of love as foolish or sinful, but I believe it’s a human connection between people. I think it’s human nature to need to look for that companionship. Yet, some see that as a weakness, that it will “soften” you.
There are “6 Human Needs” discovered by Tony Robbins:
This is important for Valentine’s Day because it reminds us that we all have our individual needs. That is to double check whether you’re ready for a romantic relationship, or you’re just not ready to settle.
All of these are different for each individual, but generally it can be applied to everyone. Let’s apply it to the emotion of love:
- You are looking for someone that you want to settle with.
- You look for mystery (or romance).
- You look for someone who makes you feel important.
- You are together whether your seperated or not.
- You want to grow with them
- Your partner is doing their part in the relationship.
If you currently have a significant other or are dating, double check these needs to see where your relationship is at. For example, some people want more variety than safety so it’s more likely going to not be the stable relationship between the two. And we shouldn’t blame them because we all have our needs – it just didn’t fit in this example. So by double checking to make sure you and your partner meet these needs, you’re not caught off guard and just look for patterns of what to fix.
No matter how much society tries to condemn or put down the individuals need of a romantic relationship, it’s a violation of a human need. I don’t understand why some countries go out of their way and make laws to stop people falling in love with each other. No laws can stop from the matters of the heart. Love quenches your thirst of finding that special someone.
At the end of the day, Valentine’s Day is a celebration of being human. It’s also a reminder that each individual has their own needs and to double check that your own needs are being met for you to thrive. Every human has a right to live in which they wish to live and it is that right that gives us to love anyone.
So, Happy Valentine’s Day whether your single, divorced, in a relationship, on the fence, or anything, may you all live long and prosper and enjoy what the day has to offer.